The professional movers have left, the boxes are unpacked, and as the dust settles in your new home you begin to think: “Gee, it’s awfully quiet around here.” This may be a sign that you haven’t had a chance to meet new friends yet — and also a sign that you don’t have any kids because if you did, your house would be anything but quiet. Whether you have a house full of kiddos or not, making friends after a relocation can go a long way to helping you settle into your new community. But how does an adult make new friends? We recommend giving these approaches a try:
Sign up for a class: Have you always wanted to paint, speak Spanish, or learn how to fix your car? Now’s the time to sign up for a class to learn how. Take a look at the local community center, arts center, or college nearby. While you are learning something new, you can meet others with at least one thing in common, you are interested in taking the same class. That’s a good start.
Join a sports team: If you have the time and energy, playing a sport is a great way to meet new people while having fun. If being on a team seems like too big of a commitment, look for a meetup group that plays your sport. Many groups offer pick-up games that provide all of the fun and social opportunity of playing a sport without as much commitment.
Have a yard sale: While you were unpacking your boxes, how many times did you think “Why did I keep this, I really don’t need it.” If you have enough items that you moved and are now wishing you hadn’t, that’s a good excuse to have a yard sale. Your friendly neighbors may take your sale as an easy opportunity to meet their new neighbors.
Reach out to old friends for connections: One of the best ways to find new people you click with is to find them from people you already click with. Ask your old friends if they know anyone in your new area. If you like to share on social media, let others know where you moved and ask if they have any connections there. In addition to finding new friends, you may also reconnect with some long ago friends who may now live near you.
Volunteer: Find a local organization whose work you would like to support. Then volunteer to help them in a way that you will enjoy. You’ll be doing something meaningful, and will have a chance to meet other people who also chose to help this same organization.
Connect at work: If you are working outside of the home, take the opportunity to meet new people at work. Ask an interesting coworker out to lunch, hang around in the employee lounge, and don’t be shy about introducing yourself to others. Most people who have moved before will understand and appreciate how hard it is to start over, and will be kind in including you in office socializing.
Have an open mind: Sure, it’s nice to have some things in common with your friends, but don’t be so set on meeting people just like yourself that you turn away good people just because of their differences. Open your mind and heart to people with different perspectives, cultures, and viewpoints. As long as both parties are able to accept differences respectfully, there’s no reason that you have to be “the same” to be friends.
Listen to the music, play: When all else fails, rock out to your favorite jams. Music has a way of bringing like minds together and you never know when your tunes might have strangers stopping strangers just to shake their hand.
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