We know you thought the time would never come, yet here it is: you are moving out of your parent’s home, ready to face the world with a place of your own and all of the responsibilities that come along with it! First and foremost, congratulations on successfully avoiding becoming a Stepbrothers Brennan Huff (Will Ferrell) and Dale Doback (John C. Reilly) statistic! Second, we get that this is an exciting as well as challenging transition for everyone involved. While you may want flex your independence muscles and do it all on your own, we highly recommend taking some tips and advice from those adults who helped you learn how to take all the big steps in life. And who else ranks higher on this list than your dear, sweet and wise mom?
Therefore, in honor of Mother’s Day, and without further ado, here are some helpful hints that your mom might share — if you asked her — to help you face the world with a place of your own and all of the responsibilities that come along with it.
Plan your expenses and make a budget: You can’t eat your new digs. Living on your own includes many expenses in addition to rent. Make a list or spreadsheet of all of the monthly expenses you will have, including utilities, food, internet, car payments, insurance, gas and last but not least, entertainment! Once you know how much it will cost to be on your own, you will have a better idea of what type of place you can afford and how much income will be necessary to make it happen.
Get a job and start saving: Before you take the plunge, find a job that will bring in enough income to handle your expected costs and then some. Most rentals will require a deposit and/or the last month’s rent paid in advance. It is best to have some extra cash saved for unexpected costs that can and will arise.
Pick a safe place to live: You may be tempted to choose a less safe area in exchange for a less expensive rent, but this is a trade-off you may later regret. The security of your person first, and your belongings second, should be a priority. And yes, this is a mom worrying thing, but worry intelligently honored is a sign of wisdom, and this is one worry to take to heart.
Write a chore list and hold yourself accountable: After all of these years, mom won’t be there to pick up after you, make your meals, wash your clothes, and do countless other tasks that she shouldn’t have been doing for you in the first place. She also won’t be there to nag when you don’t get them done. Set up a list of regular chores and household tasks, and stick to it. If you have a hard time self-motivating, try offering yourself a reward for completing the tasks. Once you get the hang of it, you will find that keeping up with your home can be quite satisfying when you are able to take pride in your space.
Choose your roommate wisely: If you will be sharing your new residence with someone else, don’t underestimate the importance of that choice. If you have a friend or two with whom you get along well, that’s a great start. Other factors you may want to consider are how reliable, responsible, and neat that person is. Not only will you be sharing social time with your roommate, you will also be sharing the responsibility of paying the bills and keeping up the home.
Hit the yard sales and thrift stores: Once you decide to move out on your own, you may be surprised by how much stuff you will need for your new place. Simply stocking the kitchen can easily wipe out your savings if you aren’t thrifty. Visit yard sales and thrift stores to gather up many of the items you will want and need for your new place. Save your money for a new, clean mattress and sofa, and most of the rest you can find used at a fraction of the cost.
Keep your pantry stocked and learn how to cook: While the value menu at the nearest fast food restaurant may be tempting, you will soon find that eating out on a regular basis is not only bad for your health, it is also pretty tough on your wallet. Regular shopping trips for healthy and inexpensive food will insure that you will always have food options that won’t break the bank. Make a list of the meals you generally cook and stock your pantry and fridge with those ingredients. Then when you shop, look for your pantry items to be on sale and buy them up. Keeping a pantry stocked ends up costing much less than buying everything you need each time you cook.
When all else fails, ask mom: We understand you are on your own, and the last thing you want to do when there is a problem is go crying home to mom. Good for you for being independent and responsible. But always know that if you find yourself in a situation that is a bit more than you were expecting, mom always knows best. Just don’t even think of bringing your dirty laundry home for her to wash. You were raised better than that.
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